When tending to a child, most conditionings that have been invisible to you before emerge relatively quickly. They are beliefs about how a child should behave, act, speak, play, breathe, eat, look at the world, dance, etc. It’s endless. This implies that you can never see the child (or children). You naturally become rigid, authoritarian, demanding, and punishing. In essence, you are trapped in your mind and beliefs; the ego is trying to survive by attempting to control whatever is happening. This leaves you with remorse, resentment, and exhaustion, and it leaves the child (or children) isolated, lost, fearful, and disconnected.
When we become parents or we have to care for a child, there is a natural biological drive to give them better than what we received. But if we haven’t started our healing journey or become aware of our conditionings, beliefs, and hurts, we will repeat what we unconsciously know. Being able to tend to a child implies being present and with a flowered heart. It means seeing what is happening moment to moment, beyond the mind-perceived chaos, and answering from your higher consciousness. It means welcoming life and its flow, every second of it. Allow yourself to be broken by it, be more accessible, and reconnect with your authenticity and heart.
